• What’s a funny or awkward piece of relationship advice you’ve heard or given?
• What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?

• Why do you think so many relationships start off strong but struggle to stay strong?
• Do you think it’s more about a lack of tools or lack of intention?

• What stands out or creates tension about this passage to you? Explain…

1: Submit to one another? That’s different.

• What do you think it means to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ?
• Why is mutual submission so counter-cultural in relationships today?
• Can you think of a time when someone’s humility or selflessness changed the tone of a conflict?

2: What does respect look like?

• This passage has been misunderstood and misused. What’s the difference between biblical submission and unhealthy control?
• Wives are called to submit “as to the Lord.” What does this say about the level of trust, not just in a spouse, but in God’s design?

3: What does love look like?

• Husbands are told to love “as Christ loved the church.” What are some things Jesus did for the church that could be mirrored in marriage?
• What are some practical ways love can show up as sacrifice in a relationship (even if you’re not married)?

4: Leadership Goes Low (Matthew 23:12 + Matthew 20:28).

• Why does humility make someone so much easier to follow?
• In your experience, what happens when a relationship becomes a power struggle instead of a partnership?

5: Determine Who Drives (Matthew 6:33).

• What does it look like for a couple to “seek first the kingdom of God” together?
• Have you ever seen the difference between a “Navigator” and a “Dictator” in a relationship? How’d it turn out?

6: Come Under God’s Authority (Philippians 2:1-2 + Psalm 133:1).

• What role does unity play in a thriving relationship?
• What are some things that cause division or distance and how can submitting to God help?

7: Marriage Isn’t A Competition (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).

• Why do we tend to compare or compete in relationships?
• How can couples (or even friends/family) become better collaborators?

8: Reflect The Gospel (Ephesians 5:31-33).

• How is marriage a picture of Christ and the Church?
• How can your relationship (or future relationship) reflect the Gospel in your home, church, or community?